I was talking to one of my girlfriends yesterday about a guy I have recently come to know. She was teasing me because I was raving about him and asked me how its been dating him. I told her we weren’t dating, that we were just friends. So she teases me some more and tells me to spill the beans and give her the gossip. I tell her there’s nothing to tell, we really are just friends. When she realizes that I’m serious, she then asks me why aren’t we dating if he’s so great and I tell her, it will never happen because of one thing - he’s not taller than me. She looks at me like I’m an alien with a third eye on my forehead and tells me I’m crazy. But I explain to her that that is my one and only deal breaker with men. See, I don’t have a type. Now, there are things in men that I find physically attractive, but its not written in stone. I’m not a “body snob” when it comes to men. I’m attracted to all kinds of men. The only things that anyone I have dated has had in common is that they were men, and they were black. I’m cool with getting to know men in that way, except for the height thing. They don’t have to be giants, just taller than me… I’ve always been this way. Plus, I’m short to begin with (5′5″), so a man shorter than me? Nah-uh…
My girlfriend thinks I’m crazy, and she told me so - over and over and over again. She doesn’t understand why I would give up the opportunity to be with someone really great because of his height. She says other than the obvious stuff like disrespect, violence, trustworthyness, etc. she doesn’t see why I wouldn’t give it a go.
I have to admit, I have been thinking about what she said. But at the same time, I’m still uncomfortable about it because it’s not something I’ve ever done. The thought of it is still kinda weird to me. He is a really great guy and all, but… I don’t know.
So tell me, what are your dating deal breakers?
D Rox
